In this clip, Dr. John Gottman explains that it’s not really about having too many bids for connection. The real problem is when only one person’s bids seem to count. Your needs matter just as much as your partner’s. “Can we talk for a few minutes?” is a bid. “Can you sit with me?” is a bid. “I need 30 minutes to myself” is a bid too. You’re allowed to ask for connection. You’re allowed to ask for space. Both are valid, and both deserve to be heard. | The Gottman Institute
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In this clip, Dr. John Gottman explains that it’s not really about having too many bids for connection. The real problem is when only one person’s bids seem to count. Your needs matter just as much as your partner’s. “Can we talk for a few minutes?” is a bid. “Can you sit with me?” is a bid. “I need 30 minutes to myself” is a bid too. You’re allowed to ask for connection. You’re allowed to ask for space. Both are valid, and both deserve to be heard. | The Gottman Institute
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In this video, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman show how responding to (or ignoring) small bids for attention can make or break connection over time. Turning toward each other, even with the small stuff, strengthens your relationship. 💬 How do you usually respond when your partner tries to connect? #GottmanMethod #BidsForConnection #RelationshipTips #TurnToward #EmotionalIntimacy #EverydayLove | The Gottman Institute
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In this video, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman show how responding to (or ignoring) small bids for attention can make or break connection over time. Turning toward each other, even with the small stuff, strengthens your relationship. 💬 How do you usually respond when your partner tries to connect? #GottmanMethod #BidsForConnection #RelationshipTips #TurnToward #EmotionalIntimacy #EverydayLove | The Gottman Institute
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